|Hmm was I being too defensive?
||[Aug. 1st, 2004|07:55 pm]
Some guy on yahoo imed me today and I got somewhat offended at what he said. He didn't seem to understand why. Would this piss anyone else off just as much?
shutterbug10027 (7:04:20 PM): You're cute
shutterbug10027 (7:04:30 PM): Sorry about your condition. God bless you.
campbaby33 (7:05:10 PM): No need to be sorry
shutterbug10027 (7:05:28 PM): how about empathetic?
campbaby33 (7:05:59 PM): how about you could just treat like you would anyone else
campbaby33 (7:06:06 PM): See you later
shutterbug10027 (7:06:16 PM): get your dictionary out
campbaby33 (7:06:37 PM): there's nothing to empathize with
shutterbug10027 (7:06:48 PM): everyone can use empathy - i sure can
shutterbug10027 (7:07:17 PM): if you don't want someone who tries to understand you and feels for any struggles you have then thats too bad
shutterbug10027 (7:07:33 PM): i didnt say sympathy
shutterbug10027 (7:07:40 PM): there's a difference
shutterbug10027 (7:07:57 PM): try www.dictionary.com
campbaby33 (7:09:06 PM): i know what the difference is
campbaby33 (7:09:37 PM): would you ever empathize with an able bodied person?
shutterbug10027 (7:09:50 PM): i often do
shutterbug10027 (7:10:13 PM): i'd like to think i can do that with all people
shutterbug10027 (7:10:19 PM): but i'm not that nice
campbaby33 (7:10:24 PM): well acting as though I am suffering through some sort of condition offends me, i'm sorry
shutterbug10027 (7:10:28 PM): i guess i'm prejudice
shutterbug10027 (7:11:28 PM): that fact is you aren't like everyone else physically - doesnt make you a freak - just different
shutterbug10027 (7:11:56 PM): and to say that you dont have more struggle than others is a lie
shutterbug10027 (7:12:13 PM): enter "empathy"
shutterbug10027 (7:12:22 PM): i didnt say pity
shutterbug10027 (7:12:32 PM): or even sympathy
shutterbug10027 (7:13:26 PM): excuse my candid comment
campbaby33 (7:15:30 PM): well the best way to empathize with me is to treat me the way you would treat an able bodied person
shutterbug10027 (7:15:47 PM): 1.) i havent had a chance
shutterbug10027 (7:16:08 PM): 2.) i try to empathize with able bodied people as well
shutterbug10027 (7:17:02 PM): and, in fact, i did treat you as normal - i said you were cute
campbaby33 (7:17:36 PM): k
shutterbug10027 (7:18:24 PM): so other than being cute, i see you are tempermental
shutterbug10027 (7:19:02 PM): oh, and the proper response to "you're cute" is "thank you"...
campbaby33 (7:19:43 PM): k thank you
shutterbug10027 (7:20:35 PM): don't worry, while i empathize with some of your physical struggles, i also pity you in that you are like oscar the grouch!
shutterbug10027 (7:20:47 PM): does that make you feel more normal?
campbaby33 (7:23:02 PM): ok well I have to go
campbaby33 (7:23:05 PM): see you later
shutterbug10027 (7:23:52 PM): i was watching your videos
campbaby33 (7:24:24 PM): And
shutterbug10027 (7:25:47 PM): i still think you are cute, i am really impressed with your "resume"/accomplishments, but like most people online/most people in today's work/most humans you don't leave me exactly with a warm feeling
shutterbug10027 (7:26:26 PM): i guess i just dont know enough about you
shutterbug10027 (7:27:25 PM): but you seem busy and apparently i bugged you, so i'll let you get back to whatever you were doing
campbaby33 (7:29:18 PM): well certain things upset me and it seemed like you were pitying me, anyone with a disability would've taken offence to that comment
campbaby33 (7:29:35 PM): even if you didn't mean it to be pitying
shutterbug10027 (7:30:25 PM): Just remember... Empathy is not in itself a bad thing. In my case it means I noticed you and felt a sense of awareness of who you might be. It shows that I am interested enough in you to take notice and think beyond myself
shutterbug10027 (7:30:40 PM): well life isn't always perfectly scripted
shutterbug10027 (7:30:44 PM): mea culpa
shutterbug10027 (7:31:44 PM): and if you had started a conversation with me you might understand what i was saying better
campbaby33 (7:32:58 PM): Well I need to go, ttyl
shutterbug10027 (7:33:01 PM): i wish people empathized with me more, so when i see someone that undeniably is going through some form of struggle/challenge it makes me wanna say, "Hey, man (woman), I see you for who you are and I wish I could know/understand what you feel better"
shutterbug10027 (7:33:40 PM): obviously you dont understand
shutterbug10027 (7:34:08 PM): i doubt you'll TTYL, but have a nice night regardless
campbaby33 (7:36:25 PM): you too